Sunday, February 23, 2014
@kimmysblog: one moment in time.....
@kimmysblog: one moment in time.....: Just about everyone takes their life for granted, unless forced to see your own mortality...or those close to you its very sad that we tak...
one moment in time.....
Just about everyone takes their life for granted, unless forced to see your own mortality...or those close to you its very sad that we take life, people and blessings for granted, and only reflect positively or appreciatively when hearing about a death or tragedy.
Today, as I learned about the unexpected death , of a relatively young man...it brought me to the point of re evaluating my life and priorities,and that familiar feeling of losing a loved one too soon.
So often I wish I could have one last conversation...ask one more question...and realize that opportunity has passed forever.
In retrospect of everything that's happened in my life, in the past 20 mos since losing my husband. I see a lot of pain, but, a lot of growing.and strength as a result. Death has a way of changing a person forever. It doesn't necessarily have to be for the worst. .... Ride the wave...feel the loss and learn all the lessons. Then, become a better person because of the experience.
Prioritize and appreciate everything and everyone in your life. Not everyone is there forever...some people just come into our lives for a season...a reason, usually a lesson learned.
Situations change...you can be financially secure one minute,and a paycheck away from homelessness the next. None of which defines you as a person. You are who you are deep inside and your moral code and actions define you.
So, take today to reflect on all you have in life.....the good,the bad, the ugly...and realize all of that has made you who you are today. Never pass up the opportunity to say I love you...even if its not returned. Always do a kind gesture. And above all appreciate because NONE of us know how long we have what we have. Rather it be a person, place or thing.
Love unconditionally, fully and completely, don't be afraid to get hurt or trust. Chances are you will get hurt...and your trust will be violated....but, by taking a chance you may find something unexpected and wonderful .
Never regret any experience good bad or ugly...its helped make you the person you are.
Above all appreciate regardless if the person or experience.is forever, or one moment in time.....
Today, as I learned about the unexpected death , of a relatively young man...it brought me to the point of re evaluating my life and priorities,and that familiar feeling of losing a loved one too soon.
So often I wish I could have one last conversation...ask one more question...and realize that opportunity has passed forever.
In retrospect of everything that's happened in my life, in the past 20 mos since losing my husband. I see a lot of pain, but, a lot of growing.and strength as a result. Death has a way of changing a person forever. It doesn't necessarily have to be for the worst. .... Ride the wave...feel the loss and learn all the lessons. Then, become a better person because of the experience.
Prioritize and appreciate everything and everyone in your life. Not everyone is there forever...some people just come into our lives for a season...a reason, usually a lesson learned.
Situations change...you can be financially secure one minute,and a paycheck away from homelessness the next. None of which defines you as a person. You are who you are deep inside and your moral code and actions define you.
So, take today to reflect on all you have in life.....the good,the bad, the ugly...and realize all of that has made you who you are today. Never pass up the opportunity to say I love you...even if its not returned. Always do a kind gesture. And above all appreciate because NONE of us know how long we have what we have. Rather it be a person, place or thing.
Love unconditionally, fully and completely, don't be afraid to get hurt or trust. Chances are you will get hurt...and your trust will be violated....but, by taking a chance you may find something unexpected and wonderful .
Never regret any experience good bad or ugly...its helped make you the person you are.
Above all appreciate regardless if the person or experience.is forever, or one moment in time.....
One Moment In Time
Upon waking up today I learned of yet another death of somebody relatively too young. It brought back all those familiar feelings of losing a loved one too soon..20 mos ago ,almost to the date, I lost my 54 yr old husband of 20 yrs.
Why is it only when we hear about death or tradgedy that we start to appreciate the people and blessings in our life? Prioriitize things?. And why doesn't that mindset last very long?
I've certainly made a lot of bad choices these past 20 mos,but, I've also grown tremendously. Death has a way of changing a person, forever, and it doesn't neccesarily have to be for the worse.
Every experience you have in life, every person you meet are for a reason, a purpose....to make you who you are. Some of us have to keep learning the same lesson, while others keep learning new ones.
Financial status doesn't define you...your innercore does. You can have everything one minute and nothing the next, and still be very rich in spirit.
Never pass up an opportunity to take a chance....because it could lead to something wonderful. Everyonne is going to get hurt, and have their trust violated.. Remember most people are only in our lives for a season...a reason....each experience shapes us into who we are, and what we give back to this world.
Life is a gift...more precious than any possesion....people. are gifts to be appreciated because you never know how long they will be in your life. Rather, they have passed or just moved into another season, reflect on how they enriched your life, because every person or expttterience, good,bad or ugly has enriched you in some way.. Don't be bitter or angry, just be thankful for what you took from that experiennce.Learn from it,, apply it to your life and grow from it.
Reflect...appreciate and prioritize...hold your memories dear. Chances are most people are only in your life for one moment in time.....
Why is it only when we hear about death or tradgedy that we start to appreciate the people and blessings in our life? Prioriitize things?. And why doesn't that mindset last very long?
I've certainly made a lot of bad choices these past 20 mos,but, I've also grown tremendously. Death has a way of changing a person, forever, and it doesn't neccesarily have to be for the worse.
Every experience you have in life, every person you meet are for a reason, a purpose....to make you who you are. Some of us have to keep learning the same lesson, while others keep learning new ones.
Financial status doesn't define you...your innercore does. You can have everything one minute and nothing the next, and still be very rich in spirit.
Never pass up an opportunity to take a chance....because it could lead to something wonderful. Everyonne is going to get hurt, and have their trust violated.. Remember most people are only in our lives for a season...a reason....each experience shapes us into who we are, and what we give back to this world.
Life is a gift...more precious than any possesion....people. are gifts to be appreciated because you never know how long they will be in your life. Rather, they have passed or just moved into another season, reflect on how they enriched your life, because every person or expttterience, good,bad or ugly has enriched you in some way.. Don't be bitter or angry, just be thankful for what you took from that experiennce.Learn from it,, apply it to your life and grow from it.
Reflect...appreciate and prioritize...hold your memories dear. Chances are most people are only in your life for one moment in time.....
Friday, February 21, 2014
@kimmysblog: Riding a Wave
@kimmysblog: Riding a Wave: I was born and raised on Long Island, N.Y. living a mile from The Fire Island Ferries,where so many of the rich and famous spend their summ...
Riding a Wave
I was born and raised on Long Island, N.Y. living a mile from The Fire Island Ferries,where so many of the rich and famous spend their summers.
Summers were mostly spent at the beach,familiar comforting sounds of waves,segals and kids building sandcastles
While in reality people were "riding waves" and not in the sense of surfing.
Being from N.Y. you are raised Long Island strong,as they say, and most of us live our lives not acknowledging the elephant in the room,but,it makes us stronger and who we are. That's where "riding the wave" begins!
I've rode many waves in my lifetime,all of which made me stronger...enriched me...never was I taken under toe by a wave, before.....until now. Although,the wave has gotten a hold of me...I will find my way to shore ,in one piece, and a better person...but,never the same person I was before. Lifes storms have a way of changing one,forever. That's not always a bad thing...its a reality!
Loving with all your heart and soul,giving completely of onezelf is a beautiful thing...a forfilling love...enjoying the person you're with completelyand accepting them unconditionally flaws and all is what I would honextly consider my first real experience being in total unconditional love. Sadly,it took until 51 yrs of age to happen,and even sadder,with a man that was incapable of returning that kind of love. He did love me..the best way he could,but, it wasn't anything any normal woman could be content with,let alone feel secure and stable in that kind of love.
I'm not sure if I'll ever cross waves with this man again,and I do know a piece of him will remain with me for life,just like that Long Island sunset.
This wave I may be riding far into the Pacific Ocean before I'm able to let go. The kind of letting go you do with a loved ones ashes. If you know me...youd know 20 mos later ALLof my late husbands ashes are still sitting in a beautiful cherry wood box n my room.
This mans '"ashes" burn deep in my heart. Waiti g forthe flame to be put out...or the current of the wave to wash them away forever.
Ask me if id love him all over again....and my answer to you would be...do jelly fish sting?
Summers were mostly spent at the beach,familiar comforting sounds of waves,segals and kids building sandcastles
While in reality people were "riding waves" and not in the sense of surfing.
Being from N.Y. you are raised Long Island strong,as they say, and most of us live our lives not acknowledging the elephant in the room,but,it makes us stronger and who we are. That's where "riding the wave" begins!
I've rode many waves in my lifetime,all of which made me stronger...enriched me...never was I taken under toe by a wave, before.....until now. Although,the wave has gotten a hold of me...I will find my way to shore ,in one piece, and a better person...but,never the same person I was before. Lifes storms have a way of changing one,forever. That's not always a bad thing...its a reality!
Loving with all your heart and soul,giving completely of onezelf is a beautiful thing...a forfilling love...enjoying the person you're with completelyand accepting them unconditionally flaws and all is what I would honextly consider my first real experience being in total unconditional love. Sadly,it took until 51 yrs of age to happen,and even sadder,with a man that was incapable of returning that kind of love. He did love me..the best way he could,but, it wasn't anything any normal woman could be content with,let alone feel secure and stable in that kind of love.
I'm not sure if I'll ever cross waves with this man again,and I do know a piece of him will remain with me for life,just like that Long Island sunset.
This wave I may be riding far into the Pacific Ocean before I'm able to let go. The kind of letting go you do with a loved ones ashes. If you know me...youd know 20 mos later ALLof my late husbands ashes are still sitting in a beautiful cherry wood box n my room.
This mans '"ashes" burn deep in my heart. Waiti g forthe flame to be put out...or the current of the wave to wash them away forever.
Ask me if id love him all over again....and my answer to you would be...do jelly fish sting?
Thursday, February 20, 2014
@kimmysblog: Forever...,
@kimmysblog: Forever...,: What's forever for? We all use the word,seem to need the stability and security of the simple 2 syllable word "forever"...do...
Forever...,
What's forever for? We all use the word,seem to need the stability and security of the simple 2 syllable word "forever"...does it really offer comfort and security?......I lost mu husband of 20 yrs...was that forever? Depends how you look at it....it was HIS forever,not mine.
Forever to me is the love a mother has for their children.
The love you share with family and friends....not any friends,forever friends and we all know who they are they could be in your life 50 yrs or 5 minutes.you know they are bonded to you for life,and they become forever.
Id like to think of my dogs as forever,they've been theraputic...show unconditional love and enrich my life.
Some things,most things,are temporary,a season in our life,that lasts for a time,for a purpose,good,bad,or otherwise. Chances are we learn a valuable lesson from that "season" and learn and grow from it.
Eveerything in life happens for a reason...and if you can app,y that to your life,you will find true strength.
FOREVER......comes in so many ways.memories are forever,genuine love is forever,even when not returned. Kindness,caring,giving,sincereity and integrity are forever.
Always be true to yourself...and you'll never regret anything.
For me...I recently loved like id never loved before..I gave of myself unlike no other time,I loved freely and completely,and believed it was forever. Unfortunately,this person wasn't capable of handeling that ki d of love....so very sad!,,....Lesson learned and even though it continues to hurt I never want to not love like that again,,because my love for him was once in a lifetime and always and forever
Thankyou my sister Diane,,,my many friends and family for getting me through forever!,,.....love you all!,,,,
Forever to me is the love a mother has for their children.
The love you share with family and friends....not any friends,forever friends and we all know who they are they could be in your life 50 yrs or 5 minutes.you know they are bonded to you for life,and they become forever.
Id like to think of my dogs as forever,they've been theraputic...show unconditional love and enrich my life.
Some things,most things,are temporary,a season in our life,that lasts for a time,for a purpose,good,bad,or otherwise. Chances are we learn a valuable lesson from that "season" and learn and grow from it.
Eveerything in life happens for a reason...and if you can app,y that to your life,you will find true strength.
FOREVER......comes in so many ways.memories are forever,genuine love is forever,even when not returned. Kindness,caring,giving,sincereity and integrity are forever.
Always be true to yourself...and you'll never regret anything.
For me...I recently loved like id never loved before..I gave of myself unlike no other time,I loved freely and completely,and believed it was forever. Unfortunately,this person wasn't capable of handeling that ki d of love....so very sad!,,....Lesson learned and even though it continues to hurt I never want to not love like that again,,because my love for him was once in a lifetime and always and forever
Thankyou my sister Diane,,,my many friends and family for getting me through forever!,,.....love you all!,,,,
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